Really sorry you have to deal with that.
as the troll said, you should be able to reclaim your channel balances.
I'm glad you posted this.
I made the decision four or so years ago to ignore LN because I didn't have the time to deal with these headaches.
Since the tools have improved considerably in the last year been thinking about getting into it in a serious way.
People like nostr:npub1yxp7j36cfqws7yj0hkfu2mx25308u4zua6ud22zglxp98ayhh96s8c399s keep asserting that anybody can run a LN node and manage their own liquidity without significant problems.
Personally I'm not convinced LN will EVER be something the end user directly interacts with. Maybe its just another settlement layer.
Its just not useful to maintain that infrastructure just to be able to send a few hundred dollars worth of sats and you might as well use a custodian.
Either way though, like you said
I'm gonna wait a few more years.