consider startOS for node stack. Based on an RHR interview with nostr:npub1qny3tkh0acurzla8x3zy4nhrjz5zd8l9sy9jys09umwng00manysew95gx it sounds like they make setup easy. I cannot personally vouch at this time, but I too have felt the pain of getting sovereign setup online and I will test startOS on my next node https://docs.start9.com/0.3.5.x/diy/