Control and influence are man-made illusions. We're just part of the natural process, and we can't really wish what to wish. Surrender and go with the flow - it's the only answer that brings about peace.
We have the gift to observe this beautiful pattern unfolding - that's pretty much it, and too many people choose to suffer instead.
I would push back against that, there are things we do control and attempt to control which give us meaning and made humanity move forward in the process.
Life is full of suffering, I like Nietzche's idea of using that as substrate for creating and finding meaning, instead of succumbing to weakness.
I do agree with you that a lot of times we need to surrender, accept and find peace and beauty.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
You are right that I don't choose my values, but at least I can still do my utmost to force my values upon reality and everyone else. The only flow I will go with is my own.
