I've got my vpn set to only connect through it.

Not only on nostr more like everywhere 🤙🏻🤙🏻🤙🏻

For home, make a VPN VM. Point all your hosts default GW at the VM. Done.

(Or container)

I don't have a vpn😥

i just don't see how this will attract newbies to grow the network, may be a vpn built into nostr clients as a solution? automatic at startup