I completely agree with you.

Most of the time I am too stubborn to go to the developer myself. I have to be on the struggle bus for awhile.

One of the most annoying things for me is when I have been struggling for a long time. I finally get the bug up my ass to contact the original developer for a piece of foss I need as a dependency. Only to find out the developer abandoned the project and has gone MIA.

So then I have to decide do I really want to fucking maintain this orphaned package, or find another solution. This has happened to me a lot actually now that I think of it lol.