Just my personal thoughts. I think that a big part of this boils down to the “uninhibitedly” part. There is decisiveness in this. A man can make love or have rougher sex in a uninhibited way with his wife, but what I’m picturing here is a man walking on eggshells making love with a woman frequently checking what is “okay or not” either energetically or obviously, and yeah I think that is uncomfortable and not fun.