either you make women orgasm ( unlikely ) or you should pay them for sex.
and no, if the woman says she's cumming it doesn't mean anything. women will tell men with 3 inch dicks that they are "big" because its woman's nature to please a man by lying to him.
an actual orgasm would manifest itself through physical signs like changes in the skin etc ...
whining and complaining about women, modernity etc. won't change the fundamental issue that you simply can't make a woman come.
the good news is most women will accept money in place of orgasm as long as they are still free to get their orgasm elsewhere.