Replying to Avatar Jeff Swann

"Nice" people lie constantly because they are too cowardly to say what is true. It is possible to be honest & to be kind about it, but it is impossible to control how someone will react, and how someone reacts is their responsibility, not yours. Having proper personal boundaries means understanding that the truth will inevitably offend someone. But the only sustainable way for people to relate to each other is through reality. I think this is what is meant by "God must be the center of every relationship." People who deal in truth & reality can resolve conflicts, those who do not can never have any real common ground—they are lost in a realm of delusion, & will be plagued by arbitrary whims & unresolvable paranoia.
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BUB 2y ago

From my experience they also tend to be the most likely to gossip, and I think it's related to their inability to tell the truth. That true thing they wanted to say eats at them to get out, and rather than be unkind but truthful to the person. They gossip to a 3rd party. Which just compounds their problems.

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Ava appreciate Calm & Wisdom. 2y ago

Selon vos réponses c'est de l'ennui et un mal=être chez certains , d'autres liés à une vulnérabilité liés à nos tabous linguistiques (toute vérité n'est pas a dire par exemple...) , chez un désir de sociabilisation avec ses pairs ou la peur voire complexes et pour d'autres une mauvaise maîtrise de la communication orale implicite et explicite . Pour pallier à ces types de désagréments il me semble le recadrage et un esprit ouvert pour permettre à l'autre de ne pas se décrédibiliser en famille ou en entreprises