i notice that both of you use getalby at least to receive bitcoin from nostr.
bitcoinrocks@getalby.com
yegorpetrov@getalby.com
from what i can tell that is custodial unless you are running your own lightning node. running a lightning node is way beyond the scope of 99.999% of society a good 5 standard deviations outside the norm.
currently NONE of the SELF custody wallets are allowed as lightning addresses on damus or primal.
I USE WOS to receive and breez to send.