Yes, devs offer up solutions and users choose amongst them. (I don't know if users are consciously deciding the fate of the protocol, by the products they choose to use, but maybe this is the wakeup call.)

But, regardless, every Nostrich has the uncensorable right to use the freedom of Nostr to declare their opinions on what the right or wrong choices are. And everyone else is free to ignore them or get upset, or respond with their own opinion or hit the mute.