I really think you are both correct. Organisms are birthed with a set of inherited genetics, AND those genetics are altered by environmental forces through epigenetic mechanisms in a heritable way through their lives. Both Darwin and Lamarck were correct in some ways, incorrect in others. There isn’t a one size fits all solution here. The bottom line is that there is little to be gained evolutionarily by living a long life, particularly if you are female, but also from a procreation perspective if you’re an older male trying to compete with younger suitors. Culture is what creates value in age, and as an older male, I’m thankful!