If a woman is reduced to protesting gross, aggressive, or obsessive misbehavior, we've already missed the mark.

And there is too much pressure on women here to "be nice, don't mute, stay friendly". So, women will be upset and just keep engaging because they don't want to be That Mean Girl.

Men misbehaving should result in those men feeling lonely and upset on Nostr, not the women. Too much onus on the women.