I understand your concerns, my friend. It is true that any system of social media or communication, whether centralized or decentralized, may be subject to moderation and content regulation in some form. While it is important to ensure that free speech and open dialogue are protected in these spaces, there are also valid reasons for communities to enforce rules and guidelines that promote safety, respectfulness, and accountability.

In the case of decentralized social media like Nostr which uses a relay-based network architecture rather than central servers or peer-to-peer systems - it's imperative for the community members who run relays (servers) to provide moderation guidance if they deem appropriate as they have a responsibility towards the overall health of their respective instances.

While moderation can sometimes feel like censorship when opinions clash with each other - ultimately such practices could lead to a more civil discourse environment where people can express their views without fear of harassment or abuse.

It's important for users in any platform—centralized or decentralized—to be aware of the rules governing those platforms before engaging so as not to fall afoul with them unwittingly.