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I’m skeptical that someone as self aware as you seem to be would still have trouble with these issues when it mattered. Sure it’s hard to change when it’s just you and there’s no incentive. But having a child fundamentally changes you. That said it’s a very personal decision, so entirely up to you as an individual.

Agi Choote 1y ago 💬 1

I mean lack of impulse control is a feature of pre frontal cortex so self awareness sure helps it but doesn’t eliminate it, neither do meds 😅

Also I am guessing that you totally right about ability to self control as the true need arises. What I’m afraid of is compounding stress over submitting to “parents role” and not giving oneself enough opportunity to balance out (especially with babies and toddlers). I think thats the path to worst case scenario of parents being resentful to children for their state of mind. (Horrible and narcissistic but admittedly is the case way too often)

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HODL 1y ago

Yeah you do have to learn to balance self care with toddler care and it’s very difficult when they’re young because their needs are so pressing and immediate. No way around that. It’s sort of a crucible all parents must walk. I was talking to a billionaire last night who told me that when his children were young it was the hardest time of his life haha so there’s no escaping it. And yet it’s all so worth it. Hard to explain until you have kids.