That is easy to say, in practice, when someone has been dealt a lot of hardship or a lot of suffering.. much different I think. You sound like you have arrived at surrender, which is great, but that is a long path for most. Telling someone they have failed with their expectations because they are struggling with the loss of a loved one or dealing with a very traumatic situation is not going to go over well for most people. I’d much rather frame it that what feels like ruin now, may eventually.. over time… be the thing that sets you free.