I dont understand what you're saying, in my relationship, we simply use it as a framework for how to show love to eachother. Words of affirmation and quality time are mine, so I feel love from her when she cooks me dinner and gives me an atta boy. Hers are acts of service and quality time, so she wants me to plan the dates and she feels loved when I make her coffee or whatever
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It's not your fault that so many other people have used this framework to perform relationship diagnostics fraud.
Essentiall, the model breaks as soon as either or both parties decide they're not going to use it honestly. And because its implicietly egalitarian, it is more predisposed to intentional abuse than other models.
Every model can be broken. Some are just more fragile than others. This is the "counting calories" of relationship models. Red Pill stuff is the "counting macros" of models.