Yeah, this isn't the issue. (It's not a coincidence that your wife says the same thing most women do btw)
The issue is that "Love Languages" are about emotions and get trotted out primarily as post hoc rationalizations for a woman being dissatisfied with her man. A woman can just move the goalposts AND when a guy says his love language is physcial touch, lambast him for being shallow. Guys who fall into the trap of thinking this can EVER solve the core issue are "beta cuck simps." Hence the OP.
I dont understand what you're saying, in my relationship, we simply use it as a framework for how to show love to eachother. Words of affirmation and quality time are mine, so I feel love from her when she cooks me dinner and gives me an atta boy. Hers are acts of service and quality time, so she wants me to plan the dates and she feels loved when I make her coffee or whatever
It's not your fault that so many other people have used this framework to perform relationship diagnostics fraud.
Essentiall, the model breaks as soon as either or both parties decide they're not going to use it honestly. And because its implicietly egalitarian, it is more predisposed to intentional abuse than other models.
Every model can be broken. Some are just more fragile than others. This is the "counting calories" of relationship models. Red Pill stuff is the "counting macros" of models.
