I will resist any and all social media for my children for as long as I can. My oldest turns 11 in February. I will never buy them a phone. So, I guess she may be able to buy one in her teens when she starts working for herself, but by then I hope she will be so busy with sport, music, travel with us, that social media won’t even be a consideration. 🤞
https://video.nostr.build/3a9c522598085f593aff22b6497cb77a737d8ea484817de1358b303d7ebf5841.mp4 For parents out there. What's the general rule of thumb of average age when kids start to use social media? I mean I know back in the late 90s, early 2000s I was chatting up a storm with strangers "supposedly other teens", had my icq and stuff and my parents were not privy to any of it. I remember arranging a couple of blind dates, I am pretty sure I either checked him out from a far and did not show up. Though now that I think of it might have also made some new friends that way. I also did some real edgy stuff I won't go into here, but as usual early stage culture meme creation, for which I don't know how I really feel about. I've done some stupid shit and honestly it's kind of a miracle I am still here. Walking on the edge used to give me a kind of disassociative high I guess.
So anyhow. When I was in Eastern Europe in recent years I was astonished by the early exposure I witnessed of young children to some pretty racy content...It seemed awfully sexualizing. And I would think so much of it depends on the parents as well. I spoke to friends who had deep concerns about their own children and being kind of at a loss about how to protect them from constant exposure to all kinds of sicko narratives etc. online.
I don't have children yet and I haven't really looked into this much... But somewhere at some point I remember reading about some pretty shocking stats on teen suicide rates due to cyber bulying.
Where am I going with this?
I don't really know. I am just packing and thinking... As we build Nostr, we should probably also think about the children, adolescents, teens coming in at some point....
As I shared what was a very yucky shocking experience the other day of stumbling across CSAM and being shocked into concern... Then experiencing a tiny taste of what seemed like bullying with more CP related content directly on my note... It got me thinking... (There are some immature vibes and definitely some sick people on the Nostr for sure)
This should be things taken into consideration in the way we build.
Not sure what and how that looks like.... Maybe it is education, maybe there are preventative measures and gatekeeping maybe it's something else. Just planting seeds.
Maybe all of this is totally in motion here and I am just not privy to it and needing to find out about it by first getting super trauma triggered to wake me up into action and out of my own lalaland bubble of simping Nostr.
So to get to the point. What's your practice of your kiddos and social media and or what social media world do you want for them with awareness of dangerous mines existing in a decentralized censorship resistant one.
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Discussion
Our hope is that she will have a good understanding of who she is, with the self confidence and the ability to self regulate her use of technology, that is needed to meander through the obvious shitstorm that online interactions have become. So, we are taking as many years as we can to help them establish the skills and knowledge needed to manage it. Wish us luck 😂
I love this! Thank you, for sharing and practicing such wonderful conscious parenting. That can be a great training course for teens and parents around self regulation and technology use. It's only going to get more rampant from here and super rapidly in the next couple of decades.
For sure. We are all doing the best we can. 💜🫂