"Ownership in this sense is about covenantal responsibility, not property." I truly wish that was the case, but Laser's initial assertion betrays that value.

"My daughters are too valuable for a career."

The problem isn't so much Laser's opinion or believe. It's that he's already undermining and relating to them through a lens of, "You're incapable of competence." It's incredibly condescending, and it's a lie that's already damaging them.

"a line in the sand." What line? You're not allowed to work? That's not a good idea.

My personal philosophy of parenting seems quite different from yours, or Laser's. Whether it's a son or daughter, it's not fundamentally a father's responsibility to clear the weeds and point to the path worth walking. "Don't be careful. Be competent."

It's fundamentally a father's responsibility, beyond the practicals of food and shelter, to help and inspire their son or daughter to discover their voice and identity as designed by God, to give them a base of security in part by making sure they know they are loved no matter what, to emotionally coach them in how to handle themselves intrapersonally and interpersonally, to teach them what boundaries are and how to assert them, and to give them the tools necessary to make decisions that lead to Heavenly outcomes, personally and generally. Or, in your language, to teach them how to pick the weeds and clear the way, in intimate partnership and relationship with God, because to some degree that's how they learn, how they become competent, and grow in character.

I don't think Laser is making god's of his daughters or of their autonomy. I think he's worshipping his own judgement, probably without asking God what He wants Laser to teach his daughters. I could be wrong, but that's the way it seems to me.

"She should make her own life choices." I agree. But I don't think Laser agrees, unless I'm really misunderstanding him

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