In Gran Torino one of the adult man skills that Walt teaches Thao is how to swear with someone without swearing at them.

I think that concept applies to negativity in general. Nostr isn't pleasant because we don't share any negativity. There is tons of anti fiat, anti government, and anti crypto sentiment shared here. Since they are common enemies for most of us it is negativity with instead of negativity at.

We could step back and make that choice intentionally. We will need to if we want to keep nostr pleasant as more diverse social groups join.

If you have never interacted with me before and choose to come to my posts and be negative at me with escalating hostility, I'll be forced to block you. If you want to be negative with me at a common enemy maybe we'll get along. Best choice to build a relationship is to talk about growing a skill that we both share an interest in practicing.