I am expecting that you are going to break that vibe and do what you think is right to do. Right?
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How?
By insisting doing what you think is right and not doing what others think you should do.
LOL nah.
What will you do then?
Get used to the frustration.
Frustration is not something someone can get used to. Moreover what you described is a complex generator. I know it's harder for women to follow their path this way (doing what others say is hard too), so if you can't do that, seek assistance from your own people or... become a dodger