It can be hard to be a working wife, sometimes.
It's like,
You're supposed to be successful, but not too successful.
You're supposed to take your job seriously, but not too seriously.
You're supposed to make lots of money, but not too much money.
You're supposed to network, but not have too much influence.
You're supposed to be present and travel, but not be out of the home too often.
Feels like being split in half.
this is the struggle of the female mind always watching everything around her and not the target
Our family is the target, tho.
that's because you are the mistress of the house :)
this is what i mean about how female brains work - they do breadth not depth, and thus the influences of society can infiltrate and damage their models of the world
I don't have a particularly female brain, tho.
i'm sure on the scale yours and mine are not too distant because i'm a total space cadet, i have such extreme sharp peripheral sensing and lateral memory recall (association) that i can't stand being in noisy spaces with constant visual stimulation when i am trying to think, i've had such a big boost to my ability to do software development since moving out to the country
I am expecting that you are going to break that vibe and do what you think is right to do. Right?
How?
By insisting doing what you think is right and not doing what others think you should do.
LOL nah.
What will you do then?
Get used to the frustration.
Frustration is not something someone can get used to. Moreover what you described is a complex generator. I know it's harder for women to follow their path this way (doing what others say is hard too), so if you can't do that, seek assistance from your own people or... become a dodger
The result of being told that both parents should work outside the home
This makes me even more thankful my wife is able to stay at home with our kid and cultivate our household.
Yes all these rules all the time, so many explanations
My wife is so goddammed stressed out all the time, so many expectations to be the "perfect" mom .. don't even get me started on all the instagram shit ..
My recollection from childhood is that Mom was a source of reassurance and safety .. now all the Moms are stressing out their kids -- IF YOU DON'T GET THE PERFECT SAT SCORE .....
My only goal for the next 10 years is to raise kids without massive psychological complexes ..
