I have been wrestling with most of this. My youngest is happy to play, my eldest is a powerhouse but chooses not to go on travel teams cause “that's too much soccer” according to her. So it's a balance they are happy with.
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It's so hard to find a balance, glad your kiddos have. Most of the kids I've asked if they're liking it say they wish it was over, lol. The toxic parents are definitely the problem.