I’m confused as to what you’re disagreeing with in the above paragraph
I love you nostr:nprofile1qqsp4lsvwn3aw7zwh2f6tcl6249xa6cpj2x3yuu6azaysvncdqywxmgprpmhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuumwdae8gtnnda3kjctvq9n8wumn8ghj7enfd36x2u3wdehhxarj9emkjmn99ah8qatzx9e8gmr3vdsnsu3kv96hjcthx4hr26pnds6ngv3jv3kngumj0y6kg7nxv4jngd3exen8zefcwvm8zem4v34hxdmydf6xvuelvfex7ctyvdshxapaw3e82eg9kdqpl but really have to disagree here. My wife is more accomplished than me although for now I earn more than her cos she’s part time. I personally wasn’t keen on her going part time cos I figured you’ve worked so hard to get here, you’d may as well make as much money as you can while you can. I guess I’m quite layed back and she’s quite driven so when she returns full time I’m sure she’ll make more than me. My point is that I know your views of family and the man’s role are very different from mine. I still feel I’m the head of the family but I know that my wife feels the same (ie she’s the head of the family). I feel I give in more but she’s constantly telling me she is always giving into my demands.
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Sorry accidentally published before I finished. I was attracted to my wife BECAUSE she is very smart and driven and ambitious (also very pretty). I consider myself smart, driven and ambitious as well. So I’m disagreeing that men are not attracted to women with advanced degrees.
It’s almost a biological imperative for me to find someone who was as smart if not smarter than me. I wanted smart kids and I wanted an intellectual equal. I wanted someone who was going to push back against me.
So I think a broad statement about men not being attracted women with advanced degrees is factually wrong. It’s right for a certain subset of men but certainly not for all.
What I meant is that men are not sexually attracted to female accomplishment. For long term pair bonding it can be desirable.
I think that’s a fair point but it has to be clarified. I can say that in my case the physical attraction came first. There were very smart women who I wasn’t attracted to but at the same time I wouldn’t have persued her if there wasn’t the intelligence as well. It had to be both not either.
Ok what makes me uncomfortable is the general use of the term “men”. I know there are differences intellectually, emotionally and physically between men and women. That’s a given. But can’t help feeling there are just as many differences between men and other men as there are between men and women. To say men should always act in a certain way maybe desirable but is just not true.