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I’m confused as to what you’re disagreeing with in the above paragraph

Sorry accidentally published before I finished. I was attracted to my wife BECAUSE she is very smart and driven and ambitious (also very pretty). I consider myself smart, driven and ambitious as well. So I’m disagreeing that men are not attracted to women with advanced degrees.

It’s almost a biological imperative for me to find someone who was as smart if not smarter than me. I wanted smart kids and I wanted an intellectual equal. I wanted someone who was going to push back against me.

So I think a broad statement about men not being attracted women with advanced degrees is factually wrong. It’s right for a certain subset of men but certainly not for all.

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HODL 6mo ago 💬 1

What I meant is that men are not sexually attracted to female accomplishment. For long term pair bonding it can be desirable.

unknown 6mo ago

I think that’s a fair point but it has to be clarified. I can say that in my case the physical attraction came first. There were very smart women who I wasn’t attracted to but at the same time I wouldn’t have persued her if there wasn’t the intelligence as well. It had to be both not either.

Ok what makes me uncomfortable is the general use of the term “men”. I know there are differences intellectually, emotionally and physically between men and women. That’s a given. But can’t help feeling there are just as many differences between men and other men as there are between men and women. To say men should always act in a certain way maybe desirable but is just not true.