Can you define what you mean by gaslighting? Gaslighting can be a lot of stuff (the word is VERY broad) and it does happen in signal and what's app too. So, if you want to keep debating this, you will need to define it better. Just "protecting normies from scammers" won't work because scammers don't need this flaw to scam people. Even if you fix it, they will still get scammed. You need to define what exactly you want solved.
I think you are just dismissing actual solutions because they are not perfect. Nothing will ever be perfect. They can only help solve the things that were more appropriately specified. If they are specified then we can measure how well each solution works to solve it for the cost of implementing and pick the best one.