No Matter What They Say

"You do not have to get over it.

You will carry your grief

and be carried by loss

in any way the carrying happens.

As if you had a choice.

Grief builds rooms inside you

no one else will ever see,

rooms with doors

only you can pass through

filled with songs or silence

only you can hear.

Rest here. Or dance here.

Shout. Or whisper. Rise

like milkweed seeds on the wind.

Or lie. Here, you can only do it right.

Here, there are no other eyes

or ears to tell you what to do

or how long it will take

or what choices to make.

And if you are weeping, weep.

And if you are dry, you are dry.

The rest of the world

can talk about stages

of grief and how it should be,

but you, you do not have to listen.d

~ Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

[Image: Sarah Treanor]

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