I have a love/hate relationship with lightning. It felt like the "community" was herded into this idea of lightning as THE solution, amd when we all went along, it became impolitic to say "wow when it works its great, bit when it sucks it SUUUCKS" and nobody really wanted to address the emergent problems.

It feels like we are coming up to the age of lightning realism. Where it is what it is. Big liquidity players run the show, and as long as your LP or node is connected to them, it's fast. And the promised privacy is sort of squishy and unguaranteed and mostly, slightly trustful.

Its okay.