Unhealed trauma doesn’t disappear.
It just gets handed down.
If you don’t face your wounds, your children will end up carrying them.
But when you choose to heal, you don’t just free yourself — you free future generations too 🫶
Discussion
The proper way to forgive parent given trauma is to overcome the consequences of their sin in your life, and then shift posture towards one of sympathy, and finally allow your heart to totally and completely forgive them.
You can't really forgive your parents until you pay down the debts that they gave you. The negative feelings will just keep recurring. You need to solve the problems they didn't or couldn't. Then you can move past it.
For example: if you had a weak dad who did not lead the household, maybe got a divorce, and projected huge ripple effects of negative consequences, then you yourself need to become a strong dad who leads.
In a way, you must become strong enough to pick up the cross they set down. Then you can move on.
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