Not all conversation is about truth seeking, sometimes it is just for the enjoyment of sharing. The intimacy of being. People who understand each other can usually navigate the subtleties communication. In other words small talk is not so small and shouldn’t be interrupted with pedantic speech.

that's the floating realm

people lie to each other rather than speaking the truth for many reasons

It's politicking in a sense it's also not copping to what is true

a lot of people would rather hear an untruth than face reality or hear about reality

one archetype of it that I call "friend collectors", are people who agree with whoever they are with in order to be popular or 'collect' 'friends' but if their friends compare notes the friends will see that the collector lying to each of them

there are others. if you really pay attention like it's a research project you will notice many other archetypes where this sort of lying occurs. I'm sure you know some.

sometimes, in a broad sense i refer to it as 'the overlay'. the Japanese word is the floating realm (sometimes floating world).

I think that is what you are querying?

for me, mutual respect means having the respect to be honest and receive honesty. that is a manifestation of love, friendship, in my opinion.

(it causes a bit of trouble sometimes) I won't be brutally honest with acquaintances, it's a sliding scale but I also won't lie. sometimes rather than taking a subtle hint, people press me for a confirmation and then they don't like the answer.

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