How often do you express your disagreement with those you wish to agree with.
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Often enough
Not all the time, but quite often. I'm definitely the black sheep of my family, LOL.
When hanging out with my parents, I regularly get the kick under the table or the back rub hint from my husband when I start disagreeing with my Dad. I'll admit logical arguments rarely work with my Dad. Once he has made up his mind, he doesn't change it despite facts and logic.
Thats a though one i generally go by the motto
Dont argue fanatics and dont argue what you are fanatic about
not very often. when I do this, despite the discomfort and with an open heart, it is always very powerful and I see something I couldn't see before. but for that, I need to get rid of my ego, so I only end up doing it with people I feel very safe with.
I don't understand the question. if I disagree I disagree. if I agree I agree. I don't care who it is with or not with. Mutual respect is honesty.
If pretending to agree with people I like or not wanting to disagree with people I like is the question then the answer is never in each case. The 'floating realm' is not real.
This honesty works both ways in any relationship that I consider real.
For example I would not want my art teacher to lie and say some painting I do is good when it is not. How can teaching occur I'm a circumstqnce like that? it can't.
My husband and I don't always agree and we respect each other enough to be honest about what we think. We could not truly know each other otherwise.
I fully agree with the sentiment just wondering because i see many stay silent or change their tune based on who it is that speaks regardless if they in the truthest sense not agree
Not all conversation is about truth seeking, sometimes it is just for the enjoyment of sharing. The intimacy of being. People who understand each other can usually navigate the subtleties communication. In other words small talk is not so small and shouldn’t be interrupted with pedantic speech.
that's the floating realm
people lie to each other rather than speaking the truth for many reasons
It's politicking in a sense it's also not copping to what is true
a lot of people would rather hear an untruth than face reality or hear about reality
one archetype of it that I call "friend collectors", are people who agree with whoever they are with in order to be popular or 'collect' 'friends' but if their friends compare notes the friends will see that the collector lying to each of them
there are others. if you really pay attention like it's a research project you will notice many other archetypes where this sort of lying occurs. I'm sure you know some.
sometimes, in a broad sense i refer to it as 'the overlay'. the Japanese word is the floating realm (sometimes floating world).
I think that is what you are querying?
for me, mutual respect means having the respect to be honest and receive honesty. that is a manifestation of love, friendship, in my opinion.
(it causes a bit of trouble sometimes) I won't be brutally honest with acquaintances, it's a sliding scale but I also won't lie. sometimes rather than taking a subtle hint, people press me for a confirmation and then they don't like the answer.
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I fully get you and Yeah i guess i am very Dutch when it comes to honesty.
Question asked was just me being curious.
Mostly came from me seeing as example Trump supporters stating the complete opposite what they said yesterday cause Trump did.
Its just interesting to me
to me as well. I was meaning me having Dutch honesty but not being actually Dutch.
It's interesting to me as well. it has been. a puzzle that I hace studied and watched ally life.
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