Interesting theory 🤔
Discussion
If a woman of substance, say your mate Mallory, is resorting to scraping the bottom of the barrel for a date - I hope she's not expecting to find a Prince.
Standards must be lowered.
If women are willingly lowering their standards enough that they'd rather trust an algorithm than their own human nature- what do we expect? Blossoming successful love stories?
Ha!
I don't have any experience with dating apps, but a friend of mine (he's a computer nerd) said that you don't waste your time with guys that don't make sense in the first place, because they are sorted out by the algo right away
I also don't believe that looks are the deciding factor. Classic beauty means nothing. It is only an external and superficial point
It's not nothing, either, though. I believe all elements of attraction are necessary.
Compromising on any element is settling in some regard.
Guys typically are always saying lower your expectations. I’ve had the opposite experience of having better luck with higher expectations, though they are not unrealistic. Using an app is just another way to meet someone. A match on an app doesn’t equal a match in real life. I never even kissed someone I met through an app until this year and we dated for a bit. I’m not great at figuring out if I’d have the all elusive chemistry with a person until I meet them. Never used an app longer than a few days before deleting it either.
When I was on dating sites, it wasn’t the algorithm I was after. I honestly think algorithms just get in the way. What I used dating sites successfully to do was screen profiles.
I was looking for a man with a certain general personality and certain specific beliefs, and being able to sift quickly through profiles written in their own words and answers to important questions was extremely useful. I used technology to save loads of time weeding out men who were not interested, available, or compatible, and expanded the area of search way beyond the area I would naturally meet someone in.
It worked. I’d call my husband the most upright, honorable, and all-around excellent person I’ve ever met, and just right for me. I didn’t lower my standards at all, and I really believe it’s only because of the dating site that I was able to do so. Settling comes when your choices are few.