I mostly use 0x but accidentally used Amethyst for a reply and it ended up not being incognito despite our previous chats being incognito with 0x. Is there someplace I can make amethyst incognito by default?
Discussion
If it wasn't, the 0xchat is not setting the DM of your friend per spec. Or there is a bug somewhere.
Either way, Its not a good idea to not know which relay is being used if the DM relays aren't there.