Clients should just pick one relay (maybe the fastest one or lowest latency) and a secondary fallback when fetching events from another user. Having many options would only be bad if clients donāt apply any optimization strategy.
Users canāt make good choices if they donāt understand the implications of this inbox/outbox setup. Assume they will do it poorly and code accordingly.
But I do think choosing a Home relay is key for any new user. If you don't know where your notes are, then what's the point?
Education must not be circumvented .. devs should not make choices for users - else you will become #Apple :-)
Could you get away with just using general relays for a new user, then a while down the road (a few posts, a few days, I don't know) send them to an article describing how to pick a home relay?
Tried it, but people don't change default settings. We have to add more interesting measures to get people to take control over their data.
