Client said something so true today and it really hit me.
"It was seeing my parents with my kids that showed me how I was raised."
Same here.
If you see something that creates disappointment within you, in the way they are around your kids, its crucial you get to work on you. (not your parents).
Its always an inside job.
"The only person you're ever working on is yourself." - Tav Sparks
Seeing my parents w my kids bothered me so much until I realized this. My wife didn’t understand when I’d try to explain - the most subtle things would ignite my inner world. But then I comforted that little child inside me and suddenly had compassion for my parents. They were just doing their best and I internalized where they fell short. Seeing this changed a lot for me.
