While I’ve been off the market for a decade plus (with nostr:npub1d20s8cgzep6w6ee23pq4vc5cuvw4sf89xphqj6y4yvamcgrw4rwsjhfyjq ), it comes down to this (and it always will):

#Leadership = Relationships

Everyone is a leader, starting with themselves. Therefore it pays to follow the

Hierarchy of Relational Leadership

1. God

2. Self

3. Family

4. Others (Friends, Community, Team)

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Now that we have that framework we can apply two other frameworks.

The Four F’s of Community (for you Romeo, replace “Community” with Spouse):

1. Fed

Does this community feed me as a whole person, the way I need to be fed to show up as my optimal self?

Is it addressing my spiritual needs (soul needs) along side the other areas of my life?

2. Fit in

Does the community consist of enough like minded people that I’m not the odd ball/sore thumb sticking out?

Are we headed in the same general direction?

Do we agree on enough to like each other yet is the culture mature enough to challenge one another when we don’t

3. Fellowship

Beyond the larger community that may be in the 100’s to 1000’s (or more)

Is there opportunity for me to connect on a deep level with a subset?

Can I fellowship in micro groups (5-12 people)?

4. Fruitful

Am I able to be myself together in service of others? (What are the opportunities to use my God given talents?)

Does the community get outside of their own walls and make the world a better place?

What is the impact as a collective whole that we can have?

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Lastly, we want to apply

Framework for Finding Friends:

• Affinity: Shared values and interests as the foundation.

• Engagement: Authentic interaction that shows you care.

• Consistency: Being a reliable and regular presence.

• Vulnerability: Sharing your true self to deepen connections.

• Contribution: Adding value to others’ lives through support and participation.

Do the above 👆 and you will be golden! nostr:note10qkt6w36f6kklq2erxpqxljwa43khtth9y6rpdukflcx886sk53qq0qkj0