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A psyop that gets perpetuated on young guys.

1. You gotta fuck a bunch of ho’s.

2. Don’t settle down until you’re 35-40 and you’ve got it out of your system.

The group of successful guys I know with a lot of kids and a good marriage met their wife relatively young. Late teens - early twenties and then were married by 26/27 and had kids before they were 30.

The other group of guys I know who played the field and settled down late tend to have more drama / divorce less kids on average and generally seem less happy.

JackTheMimic 1y ago

I agree with the second half but for a different rationale.

Men should spend their 20's and early 30's amassing land(building a house on that land), a way to produce food, a way to gather water, and a way to produce energy. Making yourself into the man your ambition drives you to be. THEN you can create a family to sustain the legacy you have built.

Trying to build a family earlier will curtail your ambition in a effort to make you family comfortable. You won't take risks because it is no longer just your life that depends on your efforts but your wife and children.

If you build your family later your ambition will mean more to you than they do and your matriage will fall apart and your children will resent you.

Late 30's with an active man will be someone that a good woman will want to build a family with.

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Ben Hailey 1y ago

I hear you. But married at 21 so wife and I could figure it out together. 24 years in - courage begets courage.

JackTheMimic 1y ago

I don't mean to invalidate anecdotes. I also got married before my timeline as well. It is more of a plan for success than and ironclad true or false filter. My struggles now are the things I put to the side to pursue my family too early.

Ben Hailey 1y ago

Roger that. Good stuff