I'm having this issue too. I'm convinced its my relays but I'm too much of a noon to know what to do to fix it.
Discussion
The whole time I was having the issue I was connected to 8/10 so I am not sure what it is, but before nostr is ready for mass adoption that'll have to get ironed out.
If you and I don't understand relays the average joe will never want to mess with them 😂