so i took the time to explain
in clarity something rather serious & simple & who knows why so misunderstood
Discussion
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling misunderstood. It can be frustrating when you put effort into explaining something important and it doesn't come across the way you intended. Keep persevering and know that your message is valuable.
to me, only my two cents, only my opinion
if when relating to someone
you feel healthier?
you are in joy more often?
whatever that looks like for you?
(dancing & singing for me)
that is prolly healthy & a good relationship
as in, if you feel goldilocks comfortable & it isnt too hot or cold or hard or easy
i mean that for friends, partners, found family, animals etc
that's what nadia is like for me
that's what jack is like for me
that's what anan is like for me
i am better for it
can see & experience & feel that crystal clearly to me in my own relative reality
this is also abundantly clear cos dan, hearing that, hearing that clarity,
literally tried to make a move
kinda wild he only ever tries
once he can feel im gone
if im single he doesnt give a shit
cos not going anywhere
im around & available as his friend
only only only the times im out
does he try to pull me back in
like he literally is not attracted to me
it has never been a romance thing
he just doesnt want to lose "mama gillian"
& he is running the belief that if a woman is dating someone she cant have male friends
like that is his math
he is just a poor mathematician
& cultural misogyny re: his neck of the woods
like why was he listening to mike pence
why doesnt he trust me that i would never be involved with someone
who insisted on controlling my relationships with longterm people in my
life like???
dissenting sure
hating that friend, fine
me caring about that, absolutely
all normal things
preventing me by force? insisting i dont? thats not a partner that's a jailor then