A narcissist will discard you in the coldest, most heartless way imaginable. You’ll be left confused, disoriented, and utterly lost, wondering how someone who claimed to love every part of you can suddenly find you completely repulsive. You can’t understand how you went from spending so much time together, constantly talking, to suddenly being blocked, avoided, and humiliated. You can’t grasp how they can be so cruel to you when all you ever did was give them your everything. You go from being the center of their world to someone they want absolutely nothing to do with.
You’ll be devalued the moment they get bored of you—something that happens to everyone caught in their toxic web. Once they’ve drained all the good from you, they see no reason to keep you around. You were once their favorite, their number one choice, but without a second thought, they’ll replace you with someone new who’s already lined up and ready to take your place. This new person now gets all their attention, all their free time, all their love-bombing. They shower them with the same sweet words they once told you. While they make you feel insignificant and push you out of their lives, they tell this new person how "special" they are. They believe they’ve found someone “better” than what you ever offered.
Narcissists crave variety and have no desire to settle down or meet the needs of just one person forever. The idea is absurd to them. They love the idea of loyalty from others but will never reciprocate it. They want the freedom to sleep with whoever they want without question and expect you to accept it—otherwise, you’ll be discarded immediately. They want to flirt with neighbors, strangers, your friends, your family, coworkers, or random people they meet online or at a bar—and they expect you to look the other way. If you don’t, they’ll call you crazy, jealous, insecure, and controlling.
They want to use social media as a tool to connect with endless new people, caring little about how it makes you feel. They want to blow all their money on alcohol, drugs, partying, sex work, gambling—anything but taking responsibility. They’ll happily spend your hard-earned money too. They expect you to bend over backward for them, sacrificing your dignity, self-respect, and identity—and no matter how much you give, it will never be enough.
At first, they loved hearing your voice. Now, they’re bored by everything you say or do. They’ll claim you’re “suffocating” them. They do these things deliberately and then blame you for it. Eventually, you’ll reach a breaking point where you confront them because you’re tired of walking on eggshells just to keep them happy.
They will discard you as soon as you call them out on their unstable, destructive, impulsive, irresponsible, and reckless behavior. In their minds, they think: “How dare you hold me accountable for deliberately hurting you! You fool, get lost.” They don’t want to hear about the pain, the hurt, or the abuse they’ve caused. They don’t want to listen when you express how devastated you are to catch them lying, cheating, or flirting with others. They don’t care that they ignored your messages or avoided you. They want to live freely, do whatever they want, and never face consequences.
They also discard you to establish control. They do it just to see how far they can push you. One moment, you might be having the best time together, and the next morning you wake up to find you’re blocked, they’ve changed their number, moved out, quit their job, and disappeared off the face of the earth. This leaves you in a state of panic, feeling abandoned and shattered because you had become so attached. You spend all your time spiraling, barely able to function, while they seemingly move on effortlessly, already sliding into the life of their next victim without a second thought.
They discard you, but not before making you feel utterly worthless, heartbroken, alone, and destroyed. Before they leave, they aim to take as much from you as possible, watching you collapse in agony, clueless about how it all happened. They love to watch you sacrifice everything, knowing there are always more people waiting in line to do the same. You don’t realize how all the beautiful memories and moments you shared are now shattered into pieces as they create new ones with someone else.
They discard you because they simply do not care about you. This is the most important thing to understand. Even if you still love them, remain loyal, and would do anything for them, they do not think the same way. They don’t understand commitment or compromise. They think only of themselves at all times and will not let anyone stand in their way. They may have told you they wanted to spend the rest of their life with you, that they would never leave you—and the second you turn your back, they’re with someone else, telling them the same lies, and discarding you faster than you can blink. They want the freedom to do whatever they want, whenever they want, with whomever they want.
They discard you because it thrills them to know they have power and control over you. They love to see you beg, plead, cry, and fall apart for them. They smear your name to their friends and anyone willing to listen, leaving out all the terrible things they did to you. They’ll label you crazy, obsessive, clingy, jealous—just for trying to communicate with them. This is how they triangulate you with their new supply and make them jealous. They want to appear as if they have endless options.
They discard you because they don’t form genuine attachments. They use people for as long as it benefits them, and when something shinier comes along, it’s goodbye—without warning. They might discard you for days, weeks, months, or even years, and then suddenly reappear when it suits them. No matter how much time has passed or how much damage they’ve caused, they feel entitled to come and go as they please. They often choose deeply empathetic people because we are the most forgiving. They know exactly what to say and do to reel you back in, repeating the same cycle of abuse.
They will discard you at the worst possible moment. You might be going through major life challenges, and they’ll seize the chance to leave you. They want to show you they refuse to hold your hand in tough times and won’t be someone you can lean on. They see your struggles as an inconvenience and will swap you for someone who doesn’t “complain” and is readily available at their beck and call. They will leave you on your birthday, during holidays, or any special occasion. If you’re looking forward to something, they will find a way to ruin it, disappear, ghost you, and refuse to communicate.
They also discard you as punishment to keep you submissive and ready for future use. If they see you begging after a discard, they know they have you exactly where they want you. You’re so desperate for them that you’re willing to forget everything they did just to have them back. You’re willing to sacrifice your own boundaries, allow more “open” situations to meet their needs, and do anything to avoid losing them again. You might even agree to sexual experiments you never wanted, just to keep them satisfied. It’s pure madness. They treat you like a slave and will abandon you in a heartbeat, no matter how much you love them or how long you’ve known them. It doesn’t matter if it’s been decades, months, or weeks; they will do what they want, whenever they want, for as long as they live.
They will discard you ruthlessly and without an ounce of remorse. They’ll do it as if they’re putting a gun to your head and pulling the trigger, leaving you screaming in pain. They’ll stab you in the back and twist the knife every time you let them come back for more.
When they discard you, listen to me: never lower yourself to chase after someone who has discarded you so mercilessly. They are not worth your time, your tears, your compassion, your effort, or your love. The longer you stay and wait for them to want you again, the more you will lose yourself—until you no longer recognize who you are. That is not a life worth living.
Everyone deserves love that is returned when they give their best. No one deserves abuse, cheating, and disrespect from anyone. You wouldn’t want your friends or family to go through this, so why accept it for yourself? Never think you’re not good enough, that you’ll never find someone else, or that you won’t be happy again. Anything is better—even being alone—than being constantly hurt, used, trampled, humiliated, betrayed, and discarded like trash.
"People who leave quickly were never meant to stay."
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