my interest in that book kicked off the end of a relationship with a psychotic manipulative woman
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it didn't proof me against later abusive relationships tho, what fixed me with that, much more, was learning how cults do business
just being protected from this shit by spotting it early and walking away will do way more than any manipulative, flashy gambit
Yep, some people you're best not playing with.
the way i'd frame it is that if you have to play you should walk away
his work is just a detailed catalog of how psychopaths do business, and the only proper way to do business with them is to avoid them, and if they are acting up, shine a light on them, otherwise stay the fuck away
pride is the first problem with psychopaths, they think they are the most important, and second is that everything they do starts with a lie
Not disagreeing with any of that, my framing of it is that he will use the most extreme examples to get his point across, but there are degrees to its utilization. Sure you can walk away from some situations, but that isn't an option all the time - especially when you are responsible for others.
i boiled it all down to 9 primary tricks they use and you can categorise every one of the ones he describes (i have only read about 18 or so of the 48) in the set of 9
when you are responsible for others, you have to focus energy in on isolating the manipulator and making sure nobody falls for their tricks
most organisations have several, usually a little gaggle of these kinds of psychotic ghouls and are fundamentally toxic organisations and everyone else is a patsy for their mischief, it's really hard to watch
the company i work for at the moment doesn't have any such ghouls in it, it's quite rare, mostly just a bunch of smart people trying to make a living in tech without drowning in the cult-ure of most of it