Women have a much different way to handle conflict than men. Stunningly, confoundingly different. That's the real issue in the current context.
I have zero wish to bring that passive-aggressive mob mentality to the core of nostr. It's gross and goes against an open protocol. Especially with the juvenile name calling and nearly endless ad hominem BS.
That’s probably true to an extent, but I try to avoid generalizing because it’s over*broad* (pun intended).
Always prefer to focus on the individual, assume full agency over their behavior, hold them all to the same standards.
I always want to focus on the individuals. I hate collectivism. A community can drive itself to collectivist patterns rather quickly, as we are currently seeing.
Yea I don't care how much I liked you in previous interactions, if I disagree with you, I'm going to be honest. A lot of people just think they know someone they've never met butl liked a few things they said in the past, so they parrot everything they say without thinking about the statement themselves.
Yup. Without the drive of a majority of people in a community to call out BS when they see it, you get cults of personality. It just so happens that many women don't like being called out for BS. That's lame.
IMO this is also the primary reason politics has become an exercise in female antisocial behavior over the past 70 years. All the identity politics, victim mentality, cancel culture, censorship, collectivist action, safety over freedom, emotionally driven patterns that make up the "nanny state" seem to reflect a fundamentally feminine temperament and method of relating to the world.
If people want to be treated as individuals, they have to take individual responsibility themselves and also treat others as individuals, not immediately appeal to group identity versus group identity when they encounter obstacles.
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