I never understood how it seemed like all apartments belonging to men in their early 20’s shared the same odd stickiness everywhere until I watched my nephew clean things. I have seen strategic incompetence in action and used from a young age. I won’t be infantilizing men. I’ve known plenty of men capable and willing of being partners in household chores and cooking. It’s the bare fucking minimum. As an adult seeking out the skills you need to improve is just basic life skills.