Then explain me how on earth you can love someone, if Immediatly after a break up, you go into another connection?
A break up between 2 people that are in love, brings heartbreak, you don't just switch. If being in love, means making another part of self, and making sure they are ok and safe, how can you deliver that pain?
I will give you an example involving my own relationship with my family.
My family does not see the me that I am today.
They see me as a series of snapshots they collected from moments long ago.
Surely you are a different person from the person you were just 5, 10, 15, or 20 years ago, as am I.
We are not static creatures in a state of arrested development.
I can easily imagine scenarios where two people believed they were legitimately in love years ago, however, as time passed and experience accumulated, the two people who were once in love drifted apart and their ability to commune with one another degraded as a result.
Then there's the ultimate issue which is that most people don't even understand love in the first place. Love, specifically unconditional, universal love, is necessary for activating the heart chakra. Practicing the Golden Rule is a great way to activate the heart, throat, and 3rd eye. Most people do not activate any higher chakras because most people do not understand the essence of the Golden Rule. I can say that because basically every major religious tradition on the planet has a variation of the Golden Rule which tells us 2 things:
1. It's important for spiritual evolution
2. People suck at it. If people were fantastic at abiding the Golden Rule, it would be unnecessarily redundant for every religion to be pushing it.
Agreed! I do understand that people can drift away, still have love for one another, but there is no more space for growth, together. Love remains, but transforms into platonic uncondicional love.
Ima non-monogamous. Maybe that’s the reason.
Legit.
I want to experience being intimate, hence loving deeply and knowing all qualities and flaws of one person, in a romantic sence.
Yeah I don't think we share the same definition of love. The exclusive love that you're talking about feels more like attachment.
When you're no longer attached to someone, when you no longer need them to fill a void within, it is easy to let them go.
In most cases people jump from 1 attachment to the next. The other person doesn't complete them as much as they initially thought & so they hop to the next person seeking fulfillment.
True love can only be experienced when you yourself feel whole. When you don't need the other person to feel complete.
One of the hardest things was letting go my dream of achieving enlightenment once I became a father. I knew that I will always have attachment to them. I accepted it & loved them fully & unconditionally as best I could. I want them to experience the fullness of whatever purpose it is that they came here to fulfill. I know that they occasionally need to experience the pain & discomfort of their own decisions & actions. That ultimately their comfort is neither my concern or responsibilty.
I'm only just now starting to feel my attachment to them dissolving. The love is still there but my need for them to be a certain way is softening. I'm only now learning to love myself unconditionally.
Maybe we do. I would love to grow with one person, not many, in a romantic sence. I know that many don't agree with this my own view. I don't see it as attachment cause I can love deeply while letting go.
I don't want to possess nor out it into a box, but I want to be simply free yet recíprocal.
This: True love can only be experienced when you yourself feel whole. When you don't need the other person to feel complete.
And from my experiences even if you do love another person fully it doesn’t guarantee the relationship will last.
I am flawed. Yet perfect. Humans 😂 Some are good with others and some aren’t. Accepted this & learned to be rather specific when going into a relationship.
Everything is a lesson. For me.
I have been alone all my life. And I am ok with it. Everything in my house, from floor, to smells to painting, even ekectricity, I dudcit, akone. My father call me a little "master" lol (asking, "how could you do it ?!) As a human, I would love to experience a romantic recíprocal love, something I have never experienced. It's natural for me to want to experience it. I have love and experience love in many forms, and grateful I am. Except in a romantic sence.
