one thing that's becoming apparent through this lady i'm seeing is that i'm less sexual than i used to be. connection and intimacy feels more important. i think a lot and this can get in the way of getting sexually immersed. it reminds me of another thing i stopped immersing myself in: movies, television and books. i'm very mindful all the time and rarely forget my surroundings.
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i think on some level, she is also very much the same way. very mindful and pays careful attention. so we do that constantly. tending to the other person's needs and watching out for them. this comes at the cost of "simple selfish pleasure" in a way. you can't lose yourself.