Men like to say this, but if they had two identical women to choose from to marry, but one had an IQ of 80 and the other of 120, most men would choose the one with the more-similar IQ, with a tendency to the right.
So, I don't think they value intelligence much in its own right, but they do tend to mate assortatively by intelligence because otherwise it can be difficult to communicate and develop intimacy and romantic love.
Men at the far-right end of the IQ curve seem to desire that intellectual intimacy more than other men because they experience it so rarely with a woman.
At least, that's my personal experience.
They tend to get onitis extremely rarely, but then full-obsession mode because the women they prefer are so rare, so they don't view them as interchangeable with random-chick-at-bar.
There's a chronic supply shortage at the right end, as women tend toward the mean.
It's out of necessity. Women can't understand what I talk. Blank stares kill me.
Also dumb women do stupid things like tattoos or drinking at loud music places. Those things kill me. Can't stand any of that shit.
She must be intelligent enough to entertain deep intellectual conversations and do creative stuff, but humble enough to not lose submissiveness, always keeping cheerfulness and tenderness alive.
And she can disagree with me all she wants, as long as she doesn't begin having ideas about "strong independent woman" shit or becomes angry.
Angry/depressive/panic are big no-nos. Become all the smart you want, you deserve it.
But don't ever think that that gives you the right to have "the last word" or become angry/depressive/vengeful or panic.
There are never real reasons for any of that when you're with me.
Trust me, I am the man, I will guide you through this. Otherwise, get lost.
Like an engineer trying to tell the captain of a large ship what to do.
It's just wrong, no matter how intelligent the engineer is, he's blind compared to the captain.
Oh, I get it. I've tried to hook some of single guy friends with dumb-but-cute girls and they're like ugh, don't ever do that again. One said it was like spending the evening out with a pretty houseplant.
And my husband gets visibly frustrated talking to them. Starts speaking louder and waving his hands, as if she were deaf, rather than merely dense.
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Agreed. Intelligence is on the list for sure. It hinges a lot on whether she's nice. I think most guys would sooner date a nice dumb girl than an Intelligent mean one, if that's the choice available.
