you get them if/when a miner mines them
but (1) you *didn't* propagate them to miners (2) you *did* reduce that miner's block propagation speed
those are two benefits you lose by opting for Bitcoin Core's mempool software
Discussion
I agree with you two points above. But, unfortunately, it's is those miners with stricter filters who are disadvantaged by reduced block propagation speed 😓
That's a different problem altogether. Which you won't fix by bending over. Once Knots and better tools for decentralized block templates are the norm it will change.