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How much do we talk and act according to the other person's gender, age, cultural background, etc.? A lot of time perceived and even stereotypical ones.

Why are we not just acting the same with everyone? Just being ourselves?

More importantly, do you talk differently with men and women?? I'm curious.

mark tyler 2y ago

Do this all the time. Feels like I’m almost a different person around some friends than others. I don’t know.. maybe it’s like.. we form ourselves temporarily into what seems like the right shape for the relationship, and go on to do that again somewhere else. I don’t find it tiresome, but I do find it frustrating sometimes when it seems like the person wouldn’t be interested in talking to my other shapes. Especially the shapes that love bitcoin 😂

But I think you’re 100% right. What if I don’t like the version of person they are around me very much… but if I were a different version of myself around them more they’d adapt (and maybe even feel liberated) and we’d be better friends?!

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JoySun 2y ago

Aww...

Interested in the shape that loves Bitcoin should be a requirement haha

JoySun 2y ago

Those are valid and good questions.

I used to be more like how you are. I think it is a gift to naturally adapt to our environment (aka friends' ways) but I like how now I'm more centered in myself. Though I might add or subtract things i say with different people, but I don't morph into some different versions of myself with different people any more. (Not saying you're doing this.)

mark tyler 2y ago

Do you find you get along with fewer people that way? That’s my worry. Trying to meet them how they are rather than where I’d like to be

JoySun 2y ago

well, I do meet them where they are without intentionally censoring myself. It's a place I reached that I can be true to myself and allow them to be themselves at the same time.

Like we don't have to agree on things but we can both state what our beliefs are and still be friends or friendly with each other.

Does that make sense?

JoySun 2y ago

I hardcore cut out toxic people. But other than that, I look for commonalities to connect on. So, I don't think I'm connecting with less people.