Oh god, I get the pain. Vaultwarden, ProtonMail, Simple Login and the latter two use one of my own WHOIS guarded domains. I drop all the random logins into my Vaultwarden, receive everything via Protonmail, generate the aliases with SL. Its one heck of a stack, but it works ... mostly. Still better than what happened to my old GMail account, which keeps being flooded with crapmail, almost hourly. And the junk folder is nothing short of a nightmare.
So, thank fiatjaf for only needing an nsec. It really is so much easier.
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