The most cucked thing I ever read. You sure you are "on the front lines of p2p dex development"?
Lol, now apply your logic to optional "privacy" on Bitcoin. Everyone isn't going to jump 100 hoops to attain it, "just tech nerds", like you say. And they aren't going to deal with running a LN node either!
If it leads users into using the thing custodially...IT ISNT A SOLUTION AND NOT SOLVING SHIT